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Offline ashleyeasson

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Dilemma at Daycare
« on: Jul 11, 2015 @ 08:18 PM »
Hello,

I am looking for some advice. My daughter is 2 years old, she has been going to daycare for a little over a year now. My girl friend watches her along with her own daughter. The girls are 2 weeks apart. Things have been great, up until a couple months ago. I don't know what has changed but when ever I pick up my daughter everything about the day is negative that comes out of my friends mouth. Everything seems to be my daughters fault and not her daughters fault.

I take it very personally because she is the only person who says these things. I have other friends who take her for a couple hours, family (who I know may be a little more on the biased side of things) they never say anything that comes close to what I am hearing from daycare. So I don't know if she is projecting her own daughters behaviour onto mine but the behaviour she is talking I never see.

I don't know how to bring it up or if it's worth bringing up. I feel like our friendship is more of a business transaction now, which makes me sad. But I am also going back on maternity leave in 3-4 months and my daughter will be with me full time again (yay).

Has anyone else come across this situation? What did you do?

Thanks,
A



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Re: Dilemma at Daycare
« Reply #1 on: Jul 12, 2015 @ 12:06 AM »
Dear A,

I am not sure if this will help, but I am in a somewhat similar boat right now.

My 3.5 years old is at a reputed pre/playschool.

Since the last six months, his new teacher has been extremely negative in monthly reports about him. Not one good word has come from her mouth about his daily activities. And it has started affecting my son in a very negative fashion.

Children understand far more than we give them credit for. Though my son is still not very communicative and doesn't really tell me much when I ask him how was school, but I can see that her comments have started making my vivacious and intelligent son start to craw into a shell. I initially tried to ignore it reasoning "we should not fight all our kids battles, we should let them learn to survive in a tough environment", but in the last few weeks, I have realized that all this is doing is killing my son's inherent love for learning and exploring. This is the same kid who was thriving at school only six months ago and would drag us at break of dawn to get him ready (even on weekends). 

So here I am, at the middle of the school year, trying to figure out a better school, rather a better teacher for him. And yes, I have stopped sending him to his current school and  boy, HE IS HAPPY!!

Hope this helps!

Good Luck!
@Daisy Suman




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Re: Dilemma at Daycare
« Reply #2 on: Jul 12, 2015 @ 10:27 AM »
Thanks @Daisy Suman  that actually is very helpful.

I have a gut feeling that she isn't happy there. A couple times my husband has told me while pulling into there drive way that she asked if she could go home. We both sort of chalked it up to her being tired.

I know my daughter. She is a happy, adventures little girl. She doesn't always listen but she's 2, what 2 year old listens all the time.

I feel like the negative energy towards her, is starting to affect her. I only have at 4 month till I am on maternity leave. She won't be going back to the same daycare.


Cheers,
A

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Re: Dilemma at Daycare
« Reply #3 on: Jul 13, 2015 @ 08:50 PM »
Glad you could relate @ashleyeasson  :)

And yes, a mom's instinct almost always points us in the right direction.
Good luck and hope your little girl gets a much better daycare soon, at least till you are home on ML.

Cheers,
Daisy

 


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