I think this is sorted out for you but wanted to follow up for the you in case you still had questions and for the benefit of other members.
The directory and the forum (you are here) are two separate signups/logins/profiles.
The forum was added long after the directory so they are, unfortunately, not really connected. I do try to bridge them a little and plan to improve that more in the future. But for now, you have to sign up for both. Good news is that here in the forum, outside of spam protection, you don't have to wait for approval.
Loggerswife you had signed up for the directory too early so you had to wait a while to get your approval email. There is a 3 month minimum. I usually don't hold accounts in the queue unless either I am 100% sure they are a good fit or very close to that 3 month mark.